Jealousy

Jealousy: green-eyed monster (carriespalding)

Jealousy. It is probably one of the single biggest joy-sucking things in life. Jealousy is a natural thing but to be brutally honest, jealousy sucks. Its a killer. Being jealous of someone makes you very unhappy and it is a waste of time. Jealousy comes in different forms. There is being jealous of what someone has, and being jealous of what someone is. For example you could be jealous of a house or a car that someone owns or you could be jealous of their prettiness or kindness. But no matter how much we long after the achievements or looks of others we are still here in the same position that we were with the same looks we have. We can try our hardest to be them or look like them but it is pointless to want to be someone else. We spend too much time focusing on the possessions or looks of others that we don't spend time on ourselves and honestly all of this just hurts us. Jealousy leads to lower self-esteem and more issues with you have yourself that you had to begin with.

Lets say you see someone super pretty on social media. You then start to focus on looking like them and trying to wear the same clothes. You are investing all your time into someone who you are not. I mean, if trying to look like someone makes you happy, be my guest but if it is harming you and you spend all your own time on them and the jealousy you have for them you are hurting yourself.

So obviously I have now convinced you if you weren't already that jealousy sucks. Now how do we help it?

Focusing on yourself is one of the most important ways to get you mind off of that person. It is the first step to handling your jealousy. By focusing on yourself that it get your mind off of the jealousy that you have. You will begin to feel less attached to the feeling of it. Redirecting that attention that you are putting towards jealousy back to yourself. You will you become happier if you focus on yourself and not on other people. 

Another thing to do is consider yourself the object of someone else’s jealousy. This may sound a little wrong but it will put more confidence in yourself. Obviously don’t be rude about it and put all your time trying to look good just so other people be jealous of you. All I'm trying to say is make yourself think that someone else is jealous of you and boost your self esteem.

You may also want to consider distancing yourself from social media. Social media is full of people who are almost flawless and it is very easy to become jealous of them. If you spend less time on social media, you will be less likely to see those flawless people with items that could make you jealous therefore, you won't be jealous of them.

The last thing that you can do is change your point of view towards the subject. Change the way jealousy affects you. Let it be an appreciation for the person instead of envy.